10 Things I Would Tell | A 15-Year-Old Me
Today, I am sharing 10 things that I would tell a 15-year-old me.
Right now, I’m in my room sitting in my bed with my back propped up against pillows as I type this. I got up this morning, sent my little ones off with my husband, and I started researching about traditional publishers and book proposals for the memoir that I’ve started writing. Well, the memoir is honestly complete. I’ve lived it, I’ve shared it on Facebook and through various blogs, and now I’m just putting it all into one document. As I shared in my 2017 blog (click to read), I feel like I’ve “arrived”. This chapter of my life is coming to completion and I am embracing “newness of life”. Now, I don’t really know all of what this entails, but my faith is strong and I have a feeling that this year, it is going to grow much stronger. Looking back on the last six years especially, if it hadn’t been for my faith, I’m not sure that I’d be here. I most certainly would not still be married and I most definitely would not have been used to help the people that I’ve been used to help. I’ve been refined and God has gifted me patience, grace, and so many signs that He is with me.
One of the first things I saw this morning when I woke up was this piece of scripture that is speaking so loudly to me right now:
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV
I feel like there are so many different directions that I can go right now and there is so much that I want to do. There is so much that I feel led to do. I am a highly driven individual, which relates to my giftedness and I’ll share more on that in in a future blog. More than likely, giftedness is not what you think it is. Anyways, with giftedness, comes an extra need for clarity and discernment as to which way to go, so this piece of scripture is at the forefront of my life right now. With that said, I do know that it is time to complete this book. It’s been creating itself for
six years my entire lifetime, and now I am ready to release this to those who need to hear the message that I share the most.
After sharing this piece of scripture in my Facebook community, Dr. Nicole M. Eastman, D.O., I headed over to Twitter to put out a request for an experienced literary agent. I understand that I should reach out to agents in a more professional way, but who knows, it doesn’t hurt to try and just put it out there. I am at the point in my life where I feel like I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you don’t try, then you’ll never know. It is time for focused boldness. So, that’s what I did. While on Twitter, I also noticed a hashtag that was trending, which caught my attention:
There’s so much, but this is what immediately came to mind.
Prior to being led to this island of Grand Cayman in 2012, I had the privilege of mentoring a group of middle school girls at Hope of Detroit Academy in Detroit, Michigan. These girls were mostly 7th and 8th graders. Many were 15-year-olds. I remember seeing myself in these girls and it was so rewarding to speak life into them, to show them love, and to help guide them. These girls are now adults, but I hope that the lessons that I taught them still speak into their lives.
Here are ten lessons that I shared with these young women (the first six are affirmations that we did during our time together), my sisters as I saw them, and this is more of what I would tell a 15-year-old me.
10 Lessons That I Would Tell A 15-Year-Old Me
1. I am beautiful.
Your understanding of beauty is going to grow deeper through motherhood, a changed body, and embraced feminity.
2. My beauty begins in my heart.
Do not let the world and those who do not understand you, harden your sensitive heart.
3. My attitude shines through my face with a smile.
Keep on smiling. There’s always something to smile about.
4. I do not need to seek any else’s approval.
Aim to please God and fulfill the calling that has been placed on your life.
5. I am confident.
All of the names that you have been called hold no truth. Know you’re worthy of love.
6. I love myself.
You are loved unconditionally, too.
7. Not everyone is going to like you no matter how nice and well-meaning you are. Focus your energy on those who treat you right and love everyone else from a distance.
8. Not everyone is going to understand your gifts.
Know that what some consider “too much” are some of your greatest gifts. “You’re too sensitive.” “You talk too much.”
9. You do not have to be perfect.
The need for perfection comes from a place of insecurity. There is beauty in imperfection.
10. You’re not alone.
Your faith has the power to get you through life’s darkest moments. Let Jesus take the wheel.
What would you tell a 15-year-old you? I’d love to hear from you!
If you enjoyed this, then please like, comment, and/or share it with others. It always helps me to know that my writing is serving to help others along their journey of life. Also, if you are in need of someone walking alongside you in life right now, then I’m available for online group and one-on-one mentoring. Please e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org, if this is something that you are interested in discussing. Finally, thank you for your time today. I value your time and am grateful that we’ve had an opportunity to cross paths. Until next time, know that you are loved.